Literary Discussions

I think it is essential to explicitly discuss early on what the expectations are. What do you like. What do you dislike. What is acceptable. What is unacceptable. 

Here is a true story. I know *personally* (not on FB) a man in his 50s who is straight (in fact homophobic) and has never been married but is always looking for a woman. He told me he took a woman to Olive Garden spent $100 on dinner and Sangria (and he is very poor), he got kind of tipsy, and then he was in SHOCK when she didnt want to go back to his place.  I told him "why dont you just tell a woman up front how you feel or what you expect in a nice way, and be honest with her that you are not rich." He angrily exclaimed 'there MUST be something on the table' (meaning money or dinner or entertainment in exchange for intimacy)... and I told him that his ideas are distorted and that there are probably lonely women who would welcome his attentions and not expect expensive dates (I mean all you need is popcorn and a park and a nice day.)  But he is just set in his ways and also, as I see it, he makes a woman into an object and there must always be "something on the table" which makes it kind of like that P*word (ho)