Sunday, May 29, 2011
What Is Love?
HERE IS AN EXCERPT FROM A LONG DISCUSSION with a woman in her 20's at the end of a 3 year courtship which would not result in marriage:
William: There is a wonderful silly movie here "What Love Is" a comedy,
with some impropriety... but also some wisdom.
There is one "dumb blond" who is like a Sufi master Nasrudin, a wise fool Her first line is "I wish I lived in a world in which EVERYONE EXCEPT me
was enlightened,.... so that each and every day, I would learn wonderful
amazing new things. But.... her second line, later, explains what LOVE REALLY IS... She tells a man who has a broken engagement, "if you REALLY LOVE her, thenyour love is NOT dependent upon marriage, or even ever seeing her again even if you NEVER SEE her again,.... you will love her, if you have what love TRULY IS listen, WHENEVER someone so ARDENTLY desires some outcome, that they
become PETULANT over its denial,.... then there is an EXCELLENT chance
that IF ...
IF they were to gain their goal, they would become bored you know the problem is that we people are selfish .we dont want to be in love we want to be loved! They would lose interest or, like the old song "falling in love with love" with the IDEA of love,
being in love with love falling in love with love is falling for make-believe We romanticize our notion of what a love relationship would be But in the moon-lit forest of D.H. Lawrence "Sons and Lovers", when the
boy and girl seek the fragrent rose bush blooming in the moonlight That evening, that rose-bush, is ROMANTACIZED love.... but it is NOT love in a daily working relationship Just as books like Brideshead Revisited by Evelyn Waugh ROMANTACIZE the
notion of young love between two males at Cambridge (or is it Oxford) or any number of other movies and novels that ROMANTICIZE the notion of a lesbian love, or a homosexual male love..... the fiction, the dream, the vision, is far different from the daily
reality India stresses the difference between a "LOVE MARRIAGE" and an "arranged
Maiden: so I decided not to take everything so seriously. and simply enjoy presence or absence of people
William: yes, very zen-like
Maiden: also I decided to fall in love with my own life.
William: live the moment yes, fall in love with your self, your life... you should watch
The Martian Chronicles by Ray Bradbury
William: There is one scene where "the wise Martian" explains to the
earth-person that, the meaning and purpose of life is SIMPLY TO LIVE and derive pleasure from THE GIFT OF PURE BEING
Maiden: If I love my life. I will improve. Maiden: I can be what I desperately might search in a lover. couldn't I?