Monday, June 27, 2011
Friends v. Lovers
Situation comedies like Friends and Seinfeld talk about the danger of a woman seeing you as "just a friend" or like a brother… because then they will never become erotic. Patience is best. Do not TRY too hard to make something happen and then if nothing happens you will not be disappointed but if something DOES happen you will be pleasantly surprised. BUT at some point it is wise to discuss each others expectations ESPECIALLY if one person is very young since the very young are not certain what they want and become curious to try things for the novelty but perhaps later regret their experimentation. Also a young woman becomes aware of the power she holds over males and so it becomes like an intoxicating game, a mind game, and yet the woman's (girl's ) actions are misunderstood, misconstrued as wanting something more than they really want. Old Buddhist wisdom: Desire is the source of all suffering. We suffer because we desire things we do not have and we have things we do not desire.
